Pregnant? Learn How To Avoid 8 Mistakes New Mothers Make

Pregnant? Learn How To Avoid 8 Mistakes New Mothers Make

For nine months, pregnant women look forward to meeting their newborn. They dream of spending their days snuggling and inhaling their new baby’s scent. Unfortunately, the reality of baby’s first weeks often doesn’t live up to these expectations. Life with a newborn can be exhausting, filled with frustration and uncertainty.

Mothers tell us they wish they had the chance to redo this special time to avoid making some crucial mistakes. Learn what new mothers wish they had done differently.

Women wish they had rested more at the end of their pregnancy.

Pregnancy is not always seen as a reason to slow down. Women feel pressured to maintain their pre-pregnancy lifestyle. The combination of home, work and social obligations can be exhausting.

The physical demands of pregnancy have been compared to climbing a mountain. It is crucial to take time to rest and care for yourself.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Scheduling time for naps in the same way you would schedule time for a haircut or doctor’s appointment.
  • Beginning your maternity leave a week or two early; use the extra time to rest.

Women wish they had learned more about breastfeeding while still pregnant.

“I wish I had prepared for breastfeeding like I prepared for the birth. We had a hard time at the beginning.”

Breastfeeding is natural but it is a skill both mom and baby will need to learn. Knowing some basics about breastfeeding and newborn behavior can help you to sidestep the most common difficulties.

Avoid this mistake by learning:

  • how to position yourself comfortably to breastfeed.
  • how to help your baby latch deeply on the breast.
  • how often newborns feed and how to know you have enough milk
  • where to go for help if needed.

Surround yourself with women who have breastfed: friends, family or mother-to-mother support groups like La Leche League.

To learn more, download our free guide: 5 Crucial Ways to Prepare for Breastfeeding.

Families wish they had had fewer visitors in the hospital.

Friends, family and co-workers will be eager to celebrate the arrival of your newborn. You will be excited to introduce them to your brand new baby.

Too many visitors in hospital, however, can leave you exhausted. You may miss a nap or you may miss precious time to learn from nurses about how to care for yourself and your new baby.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Limiting company in the hospital. Let your family and friends know your wishes well before baby’s arrival.
  • Consider posting a Do Not Disturb sign on your hospital door.

“It felt a little cruel, as I knew there were many who were excited to meet our latest. But it took away so much pressure knowing that I didn’t have to look presentable or make small talk. I could doze in and out of sleep and it allowed me endless skin-to-skin time… I really cherish the memories of that.”

Families wish they had less visitors at home in the first weeks after birth.

Almost every new family has too many visitors during baby’s first few weeks at home.

Many visitors intend to “just pop by for a short visit”. Unfortunately, even a quick visit may mean you may miss an opportunity to nap. Babies who are held by visitors tend to sleep more in the daytime, a guarantee they will be feeding more often at night!

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Putting your phone on silent, ignoring non-essential texts and emails.
  • Asking a trusted family member to “be the bad guy”, spreading the word that you are not up to company just yet.
  • Blaming the nurse! Feel free to say “The nurse said I shouldn’t have visitors for the first couple of weeks”.
  • Posting a message on Facebook: “Our baby has arrived. She weighed 7 pounds, 2 ounces. We’re settling in but not getting much sleep. We will let you know when we are ready for visitors.”

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Families wish they had asked for help.

Caring for a newborn is a time consuming job. While you may not want visitors that you have to entertain, you may want to ask a trusted friend or family member to help with household tasks. If others can cook and clean, it will allow you more time to simply focus on baby’s needs and recovering from childbirth.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Saying “yes!” to friends or relatives who offer to help. Be specific about ways they can support you such as picking up groceries, doing laundry, walking your dog or simply holding your baby while you take a bath.

Women wish they had rested while their baby slept.

When women look back on baby’s first weeks, they realize just how tired they were. They wish they had given themselves permission to rest.

“Sleep while the baby sleeps” is easier said than done. There will always be one more thing to accomplish during baby’s nap.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Laying down to rest in the day, even if you are unable to sleep. It makes getting up for night feeds just a little easier.

Women wish they had spent more time simply snuggling their baby.

The immediate postpartum period is a busy time. You will be feeding at least 10 times a day and changing about the same number of diapers. You may long for your home to be as clean and organized as it was before the birth.

You will feel cheated, however, if you don’t take time to simply sit and hold your baby. The old saying is true: “Housework can wait but babies can’t”.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Giving yourself permission to ignore the housework; put your feet up, your phone down and simply enjoy your baby.

Women wish they had trusted their instincts.

The amount of baby information available is mind-boggling. ‘Googling’ leads to pages and pages of answers. Friends, family and even strangers will be quick to offer advice. Much of what you read and hear will be contradictory.

There will never be a perfect way to raise a child. It’s okay to listen to outside information but pay special attention to your maternal instincts. Babies have different personalities and preferences; no one will know and love your baby as much as you.

Avoid this mistake by:

  • Taking in advice but doing what works best for you and your baby.

So there you have it, 8 new mom mistakes you can avoid. Take some time to learn about breastfeeding. Prioritize your rest both now and once baby arrives. Make a plan for how you will handle visitors. Most importantly, get ready to spend lots of time simply snuggling and enjoying your new baby.

 

Keep learning with these posts: Breast Milk and Formula: Is there Really a Difference? and 7 Important Ways Dads can Help with Breastfeeding


thumbnail-cindy-and-janaAbout the authors:

Cindy and Jana are Registered Nurses and International Board Certified Lactation Consultants who have assisted over 20,000 families.

Download their app NuuNest – Newborn Nurse Answers and Baby Tracking for expert guidance through the first crucial weeks after childbirth.

 

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