November 6, 2014
Pregnancies do not always go as planned. Amy’s water broke when she was just 33 weeks pregnant. Her baby, Jayda, was born less than a day later. After 2 weeks in Neonatal Intensive Care, Jayda was able to come home. If you missed her story, you can catch up here.
Many of you have wondered how little Jayda has progressed. We asked Amy for an 18-month update. Here is what she had to say:
My last blog post ended with my little preemie being only 2 months old and so petite. To think back to where we were a year ago, it’s just mind boggling how so many things have changed – Jayda Joy being the biggest change and adjustment.
Jayda’s First Year
She stayed in her tiny preemie stage for roughly 4 months, but then after that she took off rapidly. The nurses and doctors could not believe how her development literally skyrocketed over a 2-3 month span. I was very thankfully to breastfeed her for a few months, but then my milk supply seemed to be lacking. I tried everything in the book to give it a boost but it just wasn’t working. This is when I reminded myself to do what is best for me and Jayda.
Around the 4 month mark, when she really started growing, I was doing both breastfeeding and formula. This combination was fantastic for us both. Jayda was now sleeping better and I wasn’t stressed anymore about producing enough milk. We were both happier. By doing a bit of both, this also made the weaning process SO much simpler. She had no problem making the adjustment to the bottle and now the sippy cup.
Looking back, there were times I was very disappointed I couldn’t produce more milk myself, however seeing how well Jayda was growing and developing I had no reason to complain. We may have done things differently than other moms, but it worked great for us. The first year is so full of change and adjustment and I kept reminding myself not to stress about stuff I didn’t need to stress about. Do what is best for you and your baby. Period. And in the end, the first year was a huge learning curve for all of us…but we made it through successfully.
Jayda is now 18 months and thriving. To this day, we have no concerns regarding her development. She is now running around with her daddy’s energy and is exploring new things every day. Sure she only says a few basic words, but I just keep reminding myself that kids develop at different rates and there is no need to panic. Hey, I didn’t start talking till I was three. It’s so much fun to see her process new things and develop her own little personality. She already loves shoes and purses. Considering Jayda’s early start, Mike and I are reminded on a daily basis of how blessed we are to have such a healthy, energetic, and beautiful child.
A New Journey Ahead
Another new adjustment for us coming up is we are now expecting our second child. My due date is for March 2nd, 2015, but based upon how Jayda had her own timeline I can honestly say I will be ready for anything with this next one.
Right from day one this pregnancy has been different. I was very sick with Jayda, and was very sick with this pregnancy as well. The big difference…I had a little one running around the house. My husband and I both work full time, and it was VERY exhausting for the first 3 months or so. All you other moms out there with multiple kids know exactly what I am talking about. When you are pregnant with your first, it’s relatively ‘simple’. You can sleep, eat and do whatever you want when you want to do it. When you have a little one running around the house begging for your attention…that makes it a lot harder. So much for naps after work. Hah.
Now that I am in my second trimester, I am slowly starting to get my energy back as well as my appetite. Steak – right now all I want is steak. With that information people are telling me its for sure a boy; I guess only time will tell.
When I was pregnant with Jayda I didn’t like the limitations people put on me. No you can’t do that, you shouldn’t do that…blah blah blah. Just because I was pregnant didn’t mean I was helpless. This time around, I can respect those comments more. We do not know why Jayda came early, even after some testing was done, but I can honestly say I am trying to take it slower with this pregnancy. If someone offers to help me here or there, I gladly accept.
Our family just moved into a new home a couple weeks ago, and I kept reminding myself others are here to help. I did not move a single box. As I am now further along, I try to make a very special effort to rest after Jayda is in bed. During the day its go-go-go, but once Jayda is in bed, that’s when I really strive to put my feet up as well.
Starting December my doctor and I will be keeping tabs even closer on what my body is doing. Once I hit that 28-30 week mark, I will be very aware of what I am doing and what my body is saying. I am not normally the uptight, over careful, overcautious individual…but I will be playing it as safe as possible. Hopefully this little one decides to hang out with mommy for a bit longer than Jayda did.
Time Will Tell
So to sum it up, being a new mom is the most challenging, stressful, trying journey I have ever been on…yet the most rewarding with love so rich I did not know I was capable of. My sweet Jayda makes me cry one moment, laugh the next, and just stand back in awe at how amazing that little blessing is.
Our start was not a traditional one, however Jayda has thrived and does not carrying any effect of being a preemie; we are so blessed! And as for this next baby…only time will tell. Considering what we went through with Jayda, we know that very little is in our control and I will just need to take it one step at a time and remind myself to do what’s best for our family.
Every baby is different…I am excited, yet anxious, to see how this new chapter will start.
Cindy and Jana are Registered Nurses and International Board Certified Lactation Consultants who have assisted over 20,000 families.